What kind of charm

 I was wondering if many men think that a shop assistant(seller) has many women and ask for advice about that. But charm isn't like viuh vow like how fine some product is, but isntead charm is something less like hitting in clumsiness, more like taking into account, more good to others than for just for the person reaching for some points. When a woman chooses a man for herself, I guess the man has some nice characteristic that the woman likes, or nice talent that she wants to learn and that he in addition is a nice character, skilled enough in everyday things and somehow of a right type by his way of living. If he weren't an ok characterm she couldn't succeed in living with him in practise. If there isn't anything fine, pleasant, well working in practise in his way of living, then there isn't a force that draws her to that man's life. But if he has both of those in a way of life that he himself likes, one would guess that he would find a woman who likes roughly the same to his side, if he searches for such in that way of life's spheres of life. As a kid one learns skills from one's parents, in school and in hobbies. As a grown up one learn easier on one's own and in hobbies.


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with this it would be good that one would not be left in any classification what so ever but isntead finds one well suited for oneselfm one's dream:

D6.   About summer love (from this blog's text about the healthy natural ages old ways of living, advice 173. yet not translated):
"If one tries to live according to a more sexual reputation than what one feels right and natural for oneself, one easily feels agitated and tired since the relationships and life do not work out as well as they should. So if one wants to be more sexual with roughly all of the opposite sex to get social contacts work out well, the sex roles are good for that, but one should not take whatever role or the most recommended role but instead find the one that is most natural for oneself, gives best life, is something that you easily fall into on free time, something from which you find good life and nice things to do that just you happent olike, so that you are active and in a good mood with a good spirit and so in associating with people momentarily or going to shops and such, maybe one third of the opposite sex makes you think "Oh a woman" or "Oh a man" somehow handsomely, charmingly, pleasantly and you get well along.
On the other hand if you search for how you yourself would be very sexual and charming, then living Life with a big L, while searching for better life according to the rule "Live and let others live" (see this blog's text about it and it's link), maybe brings such in those circles which you like, to which you want to anchor your life."

Advice for dating and finding new friends

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Advice for dating and finding new friends

Advice for dating and finding new friends

Dress according to your ideals, so people who share the same ideals will find you interesting and start a conversation with you. Avoid pretending to be really like a role that is forced upon you by some custom or for some other reason that is none of your doing, since if you do, you will attract the same kind of bull shit pourn upon you by those who are for that shit.
Likewise, take the first steps on the road toward living totally according to what you consider the ideal way to live. That way you go to places where people are interested in just those things that you consider to be of major importance in life – and avoid going to the opposite kind of meetings which support th things that you wanna get rid of. That way you can have something to talk about your values to others, and so they are much more likely to introduce you to other people that they know who share the same values. Besides, that gives you a much more fulfilling life even a long time before you meet anyone of interest to you. And when you meet such people, you know that you share the same values because you have done something in practice to cultivat them. You are not just a liar claiming to love something, you are one who has actually taken the first steps to dedicate one’s life to the way of living that just you love and admire. Living against your own opinion of what real life is based on drains you, makes you weak, uninspirated, unmotivated, exhausted, makes you uninteresting in the eyes of others – makes you lean on others for fulfillment because you cannot follow your own values yourself but need others to overdo them for you. You can be just thrilled to just say hello to a friend with a soul like yours, while even deep friendship with a wrong type of person for your taste leaves you bored and uninterested.
Do not believe that opposites attract. Those with opposite values in how life ought to be lived typically get classified as enemies. It is the person who shares your goals in life and can help you on the way, that is a good choice for you. That person often has different strengths than you but enjoys your company especially much, like you hers/his. Theere are people with all kinds of views to life in the both sexes. Just those different views together with our different strengths and different social environments and situations of life make our characters different. So pleas do not try to compete with anyone else, since they are all looking for a different kind of mate. Just follow your own taste and build a rewarding social relationship, a sincere friendship mixed with love."

http://yksinaisille.blogspot.fi

Learning the skills of getting along

The Finnish rule http://finnishskills.blogspot.com/2012/10/live-and-let-others-live.html is superb for getting well along, even if there were problems to begin with.

A Rose in His Teeth

A rose in his teeth

From my Finnish blog http://yksinaisille.blogspot.fi
"I was pondering this since in the summer time I once picked tall grasses and tied them with a woolen thread to a bunch that looked quite fine in my opinion, and since my poodle brings me in the evenings a sock that he "says" to be his drink.

So can it be that the clishee of a Romeo with a rose in his teeth, for example climbing in from a window, could refer to what if I do fine fascinating things in my life, have them as my hobbies like my poodle has fascinating things like summer cottage life and arts, so could this clishee refer to someone's life consisting of nice things with good spirit that draw people to them like a rose draws people. So one should have a good life oneself and it would attract someone likeminded who would be very satisfied next to tyou, since she did not come because of theoáter act like things but instead drawn by the same real thing that fascinate you.
http://learntalents.blogspot.com/2017/12/in-midst-of-emotionally-felt-beauty.html
http://learntalents.blogspot.com/2017/12/old-times-happiness-in-present-day-world.html
http://talesfromforest.blogspot.com/
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This blog is a collection of translations from my Finnish blog

This blog consists of tranmslations from my Finnish blog about advices for dating and finding new friends http://yksinaisille.blogspot.com .
I happen to live in a sunside apartment, so it may be that most part of the translation work has to wait until the autumn.
The original blog is long. It is ok to translate it in a morally ok way to other languages. But it may be strongly culture dependent, I do not know.