What kind of charm

 I was wondering if many men think that a shop assistant(seller) has many women and ask for advice about that. But charm isn't like viuh vow like how fine some product is, but isntead charm is something less like hitting in clumsiness, more like taking into account, more good to others than for just for the person reaching for some points. When a woman chooses a man for herself, I guess the man has some nice characteristic that the woman likes, or nice talent that she wants to learn and that he in addition is a nice character, skilled enough in everyday things and somehow of a right type by his way of living. If he weren't an ok characterm she couldn't succeed in living with him in practise. If there isn't anything fine, pleasant, well working in practise in his way of living, then there isn't a force that draws her to that man's life. But if he has both of those in a way of life that he himself likes, one would guess that he would find a woman who likes roughly the same to his side, if he searches for such in that way of life's spheres of life. As a kid one learns skills from one's parents, in school and in hobbies. As a grown up one learn easier on one's own and in hobbies.


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with this it would be good that one would not be left in any classification what so ever but isntead finds one well suited for oneselfm one's dream:

D6.   About summer love (from this blog's text about the healthy natural ages old ways of living, advice 173. yet not translated):
"If one tries to live according to a more sexual reputation than what one feels right and natural for oneself, one easily feels agitated and tired since the relationships and life do not work out as well as they should. So if one wants to be more sexual with roughly all of the opposite sex to get social contacts work out well, the sex roles are good for that, but one should not take whatever role or the most recommended role but instead find the one that is most natural for oneself, gives best life, is something that you easily fall into on free time, something from which you find good life and nice things to do that just you happent olike, so that you are active and in a good mood with a good spirit and so in associating with people momentarily or going to shops and such, maybe one third of the opposite sex makes you think "Oh a woman" or "Oh a man" somehow handsomely, charmingly, pleasantly and you get well along.
On the other hand if you search for how you yourself would be very sexual and charming, then living Life with a big L, while searching for better life according to the rule "Live and let others live" (see this blog's text about it and it's link), maybe brings such in those circles which you like, to which you want to anchor your life."