How to see people as beautiful

  " I do not so well understand the Eurovision songs. Some later year somebody else's song was called Jezebel. Now I came to wonder did the name seek to say or ask how are people beautiful. So now just a moment ago I tried to compose of that subject: to be somewhat like this song and social with people around, maybe they or quite many would look beautiful: D,E,G(longer),short pause and after it somewhat glidingly A, F, E

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Link

 See https://learntalents4.blogspot.com/2024/08/well-for-life-and-wisely-in-world.html 

My books

 29th of July 2024   Build yourself a paradise, a paradise like way of life, paradise theory and wisdom of life, lots of free advices, rewarding books to read, see www.ParatiisiVoittaa.fi which ought to lead to MiracleLikeNature.BlogSpot.com 

I cannot carry this subject, maybe others would continue on their own internet pages

 See https://learntalents2.blogspot.com/2024/05/continued-at-learntalents3blogspotcom.html

Summer harmonies

 See my new blog SummerHarmonies.BlogSpot.com 

Learning via sexuality

 " C12.   1st of October 2023   Of learning via sexualuty

If one has a hobby course that one likes and one is interested in learning sich things and really tries to learn the taught things, and if one is interested in developing in such skills and talents and changing one's ways of living toward that area of lufe. If one then is interested in finding a pair from there and pays attention to what the others are like, how skilled or talented they are and in which ways they do thkngs, if one maybe flirts with them and gets social inflyencies from them and via them a better understanding of them and of their ways of doing which bring their talents, which one can so easier learn by practising the hobby in the ordinary way but with those good sides in one's ways of doing. And so one can learn skills and talents and values and get an idea of with whom one gets well along and with whom it would be for oneself good to live with. 

Going to bed or having such an atmosphere is not good for learning skills and talents, since going to bed connects with forming a family, so it is a question of adopting habitual ways of living together, forming so a home, a living environment for the children to grow up. 

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From LearnTalents.BlogSpot.com 

Link

 See https://learntalents.blogspot.com/2023/11/an-extremely-handsome-man.html 

Male and female characteristics

 "a10.   The new transgender law has been so much in the air, that i add this here, even though it does not belong to the traditional Christmas gnlmes. 

"  In principle mind and body are intertwined, so in theory, but propably not in practice, someone could change also one's physical body from female to male or vice versa. Then growing a penis would connect with an almost conyinuous state of mind&of feelings, in which one ponders would one ought to start doing that kind of chores. According to a view I heard from somewhere, the child becomes a boy, if there is some task to which the child is wanted, and a girl if the living conditions are more favorable and there is room for wisdom of life. I guess that a girl thinks  "I would not do such, since I think that my own wisdom of lufe is good, better." and thinks "How can I live in this situation?" 

6th of April 2023 (Easter Thursday)   Changing from woman to man or from man to woman connects with states of mind connected with forming a family : taking care of chores as if a man of the family or group, skilled and responsible, and being with wisdom of lufe thst also cultivates and quarantees good living conditiobs for a child to grow up in. One can learn wisdom of life for example from books and likings. 

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Learntalents.blogspot.com

Womensskills.blogspot.com 

Women's movement

 I have lately found myself eatibg lots of fish. It is after I recommended my book Skills of Christmas gnomes, book 5.: women's position and other texts, see www.amazon.fr search "tervola", and a week passed so that i got mine in post and i guess somebody else theirs. The text is at https://learntalents.blogspot.com/2023/01/womens-position-like-that-of-others.html , see especially it's last quotations. 

Making love in a meditative way

 See X43. In my text Skills of Christmas gnomes learntalents.blogspot.com 

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X43.   About Buddhism one interest of quite many is: what is a meditative way of making love like? Generally meditation in daily life is meditative moments born of fresh variation to what was boring, so for example going outdoors if one was fed up with too much indoor lufe, the first moments oytdoors when one meets the greenery, the weather and tge lufe around, senses get opened and the world is fresh and fascinating, a pleasant relief after indoor life. Likewise other refreshing moments and their sensations, which means that for making love one ought to have had a shower and clean clothes, a nuce pleasant environment too. But while free time after nasty things is superfine, one ought not carry the nasty lufe along. For making live in a meditative way i guess there ought to be nice things to do, pleasant company, moments of attraction, pleasant sensations and love. When there is some beautiful sight while on a walk, a natural reaction is let's go there, oh that's beautiful, while the charm of a person is often in the nice fine subjects associated with in a good quality way plus in the love and good will making lufe together nice and a good cjoise in the future too. 

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If the pairs do not suit you

 If the pairs you find or prospects that you think of do not suit you but instead cause stomach pain already by thinking of them or you end too much in arguments with them, they are propably of a wrong type and you should consider dates from other countries. There are lits of dating sites in thd knternet, some of continents and some of countries. Typical to them is that they have a certain view of how to associate, how to luve, which values emphasize, etc. Try to find the country or the countrues that suit you well and have a positive effect on your lufe. At the datibg site there also similarly inclined peoole from other countries, so you do not necessarily need to choosd jyst that coubtry even though you will get lits of inflyencies from ut to your lufe. 

Well behaved, high position and skills

 In my text Skills of Christmas gnomes learntalents.blogspot.com the point E11. which is easy quick school for animals, could be useful to humans too. 

In the same long blog text there are lots of advices in learning skills and talents and links to such advices too.

Proud meets proud

A short melody

Learn to be responsible

  Learn to be responsible

LEARN TO BE RESPONSIBLE IN AN EASY EFFORTLESS NATURAL WAY:

Think of the ages old healthy natural way to live according to the human nature, to our instructions of usage, to our soul on all areas of life.
Like a wolf howling at the moon!
Think of this also in what comes to your relationship to the world: world wide moral, meaningful things to do, for healthier ways of living etc.
Then just live by your feelings toward this right way to live!

Get along and be liked

Get along and be liked

GET ALONG WITH JUST ABOUT ALL
AND DESERVE WELL THE SOCIAL POSITION THAT YOU HAVE:

"I love Life, happiness and things positive for happy life - like most of the others, like You too!
So I take them as my value in the world at large."
If you can agree with this, without ever neglecting badly this point of view, that's it!

Love is in our nature

Love is in our nature

LOVE IS AT THE CORE OF LIFE

Each one loves only one’s own nature, what is inevitable and at the same tima a part of the positive ground for life, of the base for everything, of its strong current. In the end it is our ages old nature, a wolf howling at the moon, the basic material of reality, that upon which everything even nowadays is build upon, that which I cannot avoid recognizing as my deepest most real self and of which I cannot let go in the world because it is the blod that I live by. We are all still by our very structure parts of Gaia, parts of the Mother Earth.

Advice on creating charm

Advice on creating charm

Advice on creating charm
You are irresistible just when you find life irresistible to you, when you love each and everyone and are thrilled with life’s challenges. That attitude gets reflected from others too, you kind of drag them along to a good way of living. But how to come about this? You must let go of rigid patterns of life and open yourself to new possibilities like most do when they are about to go for a holiday. Catch that mood and let it be your guide to how to live your life, how to approach the things in life and how to be social. But be quick witted in this and pay especially much attention to when it works well and at which moment it has ceased to be effective and when it goes totally ashtray. Since if you are too slow, you start the right way but then continue along some old habit of yours and end up pouring your good will upon others who are stuck on their own habits without you getting anything in return. You ought to keep the thrilled mindset all the time. It isn’t anything fixed, it is like being born anew each moment: “Oh, it is like this… And that! And there is! And there!...” Each new thing which catches your attention gives you strength, each enjoyable experience is kind of fuel that keep you going. And in that it is important that you do not overdo anything, just go with the flow of the situation without “putting it to a box” to repeat, to continue or to give to others – just let go and enjoy life, that way you can endure forever! In social relationships you have to see what is a good way to live for both of you, kind of seduce the other one to the right kind of good times and then just enjoy the thus found entertaining life together.

Build a perfect relationship

Build a perfect relationship: "Live and let others live!"

Obs! This piece of advice applies not only to family, friends and pals but to all human contacts!

Build A Perfect Relationship
How to get along

Let go, live freely, love life and enjoy the company of your partner. (If you are stuck with a strategy that does not work in a situation, you must first let go of it in order to be able to see the situation with new eyes. Take distance and take yourself care of your own needs so that you do not need to throw them upon the other one, this you achieve best by living in a liberating way. Think, experience, feel, which side of your spouce or pal you like, and enjoy the social contact at those parts, otherwise keep a bigger distance so that you get enough room to live like you wish to live.)
Do not put your thoughts and feelings about these things to words, do not make rigid plans. (Human relationships grow like a tree: slowly one situation grows to another one just the way that feels right then. It is a big error to make one's way to see humans structured like the build environment, like often happens when one thinks about social situations. One trick that helps to this is to look at an ordinary healthy tree always when one thinks about social things.)
Just let yourself grow toward light and give the other one the same freedom too. (When you aim directly to your goals in life, there isn't much else that you could wish from life! And it is of course the same for the other one and his/her goals: a sincere harmony is born!)
One who grows toward light is no obstacle to others, it is the dark thoughts that you should let go of, you should let your spouce be what she/he is without manipulating him/her, without putting to words what she/he is like, without making your needs thoughts in your mind. (Just repeating with a slightly different wording so as to make it easier to apply. Often social situations seen with feelings and experienced strongly are easier to react to than intellectualized situations, since feelings touch our instinct nature, they touch how our social relationships naturally work, while thoughts are clumsy in this and too distant.)
Just plant seeds of love, love toward yourself, love toward life, love toward your spouce and love toward others and the world at large. (Just in this order: take care of yourself, answer your own needs, take care that life will be worth living. Only what is left over can you use to caring about others, for example your spouce - but of course the biggest needs of others too have to be met, it is just so that the daily life swings better if both are spirited and happy. Take also care of all the others and of the world at large, since if you don't those outside factors will be an amazingly huge burden upon your life and your relationship.)
In harmony we coexist, such a harmony is in our nature, it grows from us giving room to our real self and to the real selves of all the others, just let them enjoy life without being obstacles to the happiness of others, and you will all find fulfillment in life, a natural harmony that feels like the only obviously right way to live – wide and varied like the human nature... (We are pack animals, so if we do not do anything completely unnatural, we will all fit well together, regardless of how widely different we may be. One just needs to take care that these differencies have enough room, so that each and everyone can oneself answer one's own needs. Just that's why we are all individuals: so that we could all best take care of ourselfves. And we are social in order to get support from others, which makes the group and us strong.)

How to get along
Let go, live freely, love life and enjoy the company of your partner. Do not put your thoughts and feelings about these things to words, do not make rigid plans. Just let yourself grow toward light and give the other one the same freedom too. One who grows toward light is no obstacle to others, it is the dark thoughts that you should let go of, you should let your spouce be what she/he is without manipulating him/her, without putting to words what she/he is like, without making your needs thoughts in your mind. Just plant seeds of love, love toward yourself, love toward life, love toward your spouce and love toward others and the world at large. In harmony we coexist, such a harmony is in our nature, it grows from us giving room to our real self and to the real selves of all the others, just let them enjoy life without being obstacles to the happiness of others, and you will all find fulfillment in life, a natural harmony that feels like the only obviously right way to live – wide and varied like the human nature...

How to refuse

  How to refuse a person whom one has first in the beginning looked at to see if such person would be right for oneself:
Be friendly, praise the other person's good qualities and tell that you yourself are looking for a different type of person, people more suited to your taste. "Better luck next time... I wish you good life and luck in your search. Unfortunately did not succeed this time. One cannot build upon such which one knows will fail, be unsuited to oneself. Better to save time and one's sense of self-worth and invest on those with whom one gets well along and whom one feels to be suited to oneself. Goodbye..." (factually said, not overly nicely)

If the handsome or beautiful go past you

 Sometimes one feels that one meets only ordinary people and when one then meets someone really fine or interesting that person isn't really interested and is somehow difficultly behaving. The others on the other hand aren't as fascinating, at least not those who get stuck to your company. Can that be a question of social distance and not of whom you meet. Maybe a natural distance on which it is good to live and to show one's most fascinating sides to others, isn't very close or of fair conversation partner, but isntead such that talk goes somewhat missing the hit, the other one continues of another subject, of his/her own life and not stuck to one place. Like that archingly running horse (see the picture) and not like when finding someone gettng stuck to one place like we will sit here for long. Or like a drunken person, who misses some of the talk but who lives one's own life energetically in a very good way. Or like someone who is not planing dating yet now? bonding to this relationship: the human figure stays untouched, undisturbed the life one is living, fascinated by one's own life and by the world. So one is allowed to be with one's own rythm,listening ot one'sown views, neglecting brong point and nasty suggestions, leaving them to less emphazis. Yet in harmony with the world like that archingly running horse and "Live and let otehrs live", carrying responsibility about others too like brings good lig´fe and good world to live in.

What kind of charm

 I was wondering if many men think that a shop assistant(seller) has many women and ask for advice about that. But charm isn't like viuh vow like how fine some product is, but isntead charm is something less like hitting in clumsiness, more like taking into account, more good to others than for just for the person reaching for some points. When a woman chooses a man for herself, I guess the man has some nice characteristic that the woman likes, or nice talent that she wants to learn and that he in addition is a nice character, skilled enough in everyday things and somehow of a right type by his way of living. If he weren't an ok characterm she couldn't succeed in living with him in practise. If there isn't anything fine, pleasant, well working in practise in his way of living, then there isn't a force that draws her to that man's life. But if he has both of those in a way of life that he himself likes, one would guess that he would find a woman who likes roughly the same to his side, if he searches for such in that way of life's spheres of life. As a kid one learns skills from one's parents, in school and in hobbies. As a grown up one learn easier on one's own and in hobbies.


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with this it would be good that one would not be left in any classification what so ever but isntead finds one well suited for oneselfm one's dream:

D6.   About summer love (from this blog's text about the healthy natural ages old ways of living, advice 173. yet not translated):
"If one tries to live according to a more sexual reputation than what one feels right and natural for oneself, one easily feels agitated and tired since the relationships and life do not work out as well as they should. So if one wants to be more sexual with roughly all of the opposite sex to get social contacts work out well, the sex roles are good for that, but one should not take whatever role or the most recommended role but instead find the one that is most natural for oneself, gives best life, is something that you easily fall into on free time, something from which you find good life and nice things to do that just you happent olike, so that you are active and in a good mood with a good spirit and so in associating with people momentarily or going to shops and such, maybe one third of the opposite sex makes you think "Oh a woman" or "Oh a man" somehow handsomely, charmingly, pleasantly and you get well along.
On the other hand if you search for how you yourself would be very sexual and charming, then living Life with a big L, while searching for better life according to the rule "Live and let others live" (see this blog's text about it and it's link), maybe brings such in those circles which you like, to which you want to anchor your life."

Advice for dating and finding new friends

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Advice for dating and finding new friends

Advice for dating and finding new friends

Dress according to your ideals, so people who share the same ideals will find you interesting and start a conversation with you. Avoid pretending to be really like a role that is forced upon you by some custom or for some other reason that is none of your doing, since if you do, you will attract the same kind of bull shit pourn upon you by those who are for that shit.
Likewise, take the first steps on the road toward living totally according to what you consider the ideal way to live. That way you go to places where people are interested in just those things that you consider to be of major importance in life – and avoid going to the opposite kind of meetings which support th things that you wanna get rid of. That way you can have something to talk about your values to others, and so they are much more likely to introduce you to other people that they know who share the same values. Besides, that gives you a much more fulfilling life even a long time before you meet anyone of interest to you. And when you meet such people, you know that you share the same values because you have done something in practice to cultivat them. You are not just a liar claiming to love something, you are one who has actually taken the first steps to dedicate one’s life to the way of living that just you love and admire. Living against your own opinion of what real life is based on drains you, makes you weak, uninspirated, unmotivated, exhausted, makes you uninteresting in the eyes of others – makes you lean on others for fulfillment because you cannot follow your own values yourself but need others to overdo them for you. You can be just thrilled to just say hello to a friend with a soul like yours, while even deep friendship with a wrong type of person for your taste leaves you bored and uninterested.
Do not believe that opposites attract. Those with opposite values in how life ought to be lived typically get classified as enemies. It is the person who shares your goals in life and can help you on the way, that is a good choice for you. That person often has different strengths than you but enjoys your company especially much, like you hers/his. Theere are people with all kinds of views to life in the both sexes. Just those different views together with our different strengths and different social environments and situations of life make our characters different. So pleas do not try to compete with anyone else, since they are all looking for a different kind of mate. Just follow your own taste and build a rewarding social relationship, a sincere friendship mixed with love."

http://yksinaisille.blogspot.fi

Learning the skills of getting along

The Finnish rule http://finnishskills.blogspot.com/2012/10/live-and-let-others-live.html is superb for getting well along, even if there were problems to begin with.

A Rose in His Teeth

A rose in his teeth

From my Finnish blog http://yksinaisille.blogspot.fi
"I was pondering this since in the summer time I once picked tall grasses and tied them with a woolen thread to a bunch that looked quite fine in my opinion, and since my poodle brings me in the evenings a sock that he "says" to be his drink.

So can it be that the clishee of a Romeo with a rose in his teeth, for example climbing in from a window, could refer to what if I do fine fascinating things in my life, have them as my hobbies like my poodle has fascinating things like summer cottage life and arts, so could this clishee refer to someone's life consisting of nice things with good spirit that draw people to them like a rose draws people. So one should have a good life oneself and it would attract someone likeminded who would be very satisfied next to tyou, since she did not come because of theoáter act like things but instead drawn by the same real thing that fascinate you.
http://learntalents.blogspot.com/2017/12/in-midst-of-emotionally-felt-beauty.html
http://learntalents.blogspot.com/2017/12/old-times-happiness-in-present-day-world.html
http://talesfromforest.blogspot.com/
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